Meditations

This morning has been a morning of reflection and meditation. Some have been of past friends and family. Mom and Da have been on my mind this morning. Thoughts of what Da taught me growing up. Silent teachings by his example. Stewardship and responsibilities. He bestowed upon me my love of the outdoors, specifically my mountains. I learn from him about the diverse beauties of the desert, the great plains. Seeing, and having a desire to see, every corner of this continent. 

Mom taught me that I need to care for others. It does not matter whether I know them well or I am even in their proximity. I need to show that I care by asking how I can help rather than if I can help. Help when you can without seeking for the recognition of your works. Mom also taught that if you are going to laugh about something later, you might as well laugh about it now.

I do try. 

Another thread in my thoughts this morning are three people who grew up as neighborhood friends and went through school together. A was married for years and came home from work one day to be told by her husband that he was not happy with her and their children and had found someone else and that they were getting divorced. She moved into an apartment, then took a job in another city and moved affairs. Their children grew into their own selves and have moved into their own families and other parts of the country.

D1 was on his second marriage and to all appearances happy, but had reconnected with A as a friend (important) and eventually the two had decided that they would be happier (important) together. D1 and A were both silent about this, but D1's ex-wife did post something about changes in her life. She did not broadcast things, but would answer anybody who asked her privately. 

D2 asked, and then got vocal to A and D1, and, I am sure, to anybody else who would listen. Neither A nor D1 replied publicly, but kept their private life private. So far, the only comments I have heard from A was a mention that karma happens when it became public that D2 in all his sanctimonious expressions was arrested for downloading child porn. 

I guess my take on this is both do what you need to be happy, but let others be happy as well. I need to remember, and I do feel I manage to do this, that I have my own faults and really should not judge others.